Touch : my answer

This is my answer to one of the blogs posted : I posted as anonymous on there, but anyone who reads this, would probably recognize my writing style...so i thought, why not, I might as well just put it out there for people to know what I think!!! :)

Intimacy between a Husband and Wife is something that Churches very rarely feel comfortable talking about, and I wish there were more things said about it, because once we are married, we're sort of treading on new ground. In this society of tolerance and acceptance of most anything these days, including divorce, and seperation, it is so important to have integrity...and to also show your partner love, and affection. This is also one of the 5 love languages that people have. You can work all day, slave away in the house, kitchen, get your wife a gift, flowers, compliment her all day long, but if her love language is touch, none of that may matter to her, it may not speak to her, at all if you are not affectionate towards her and touch her...Many males in marital relationships struggle with not enough physical attention from their wives, and this can be caused by many different things, but I believe alot of it is because we are so busy, and we run ourselves ragged so at the end of the day, we want "me" time and don't always feel like our partner matters or needs extra affection from us. Sometimes it feels more like an obligation than a gift we can give to them. There are countless books, and articles about how to help out your marriage in the intimacy department, but it's not always biblical advice. Women didn't exactly get a "How to" lesson on how to be intimate with their husbands in the Bible. Alot of men don't want to be patient like Jacob was for Rachel. Jesus's example of loving the church is very hard to follow also for men who are not getting what they need at home from their wives, and vice versa. Submitting to your husband, is looked at in a very negative way these days by women who are wanting to feel empowered and in control. This is a very difficult subject to cover, but I definitely think more needs to be said, and our children need to be told as well, because I know when I was younger, I didn't get the talk, and I was confused and frustrated and not sure which way to go when hormones started to rear their ugly head. I didn't wait until I got married to have premarital sex, and my husband had been married before...that happens alot in today's society. That "moment" of closeness that is meant to be I just believe that this subject should be discussed more candidly, because younger people want to know, and they want boundaries in that area, not only because of sexually transmitted disease, but because of the examples they are seeing on TV, listening to on the Radio, and seeing even in their parents. The next generation will fail miserably at being good husbands and wives unless this subject is approached in an open yet Godly manner and if they see good examples, and see positive results.
Society doesn't want to help failing marriages...they want to see them fail and have the individuals go out and be free and do whatever they want, as long as it makes them "happy". Where is a happy medium in all of this? We may never know.